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I Can't Control Another Person's Feelings: The Science Behind Empathy And Boundaries

By Jose Lizama

Updated on Thursday 18th of May 2023

What's your number one question about self-improvement?


In our society, we are taught to be empathetic and compassionate towards others. While this is undoubtedly an essential trait that allows us to form strong connections with the people around us, it can also become a burden. We tend to take others' feelings on as our own and feel responsible for their emotional well-being. However, in reality, we cannot control another person's feelings, no matter how much we might try.

It's time to let go of the idea that we can control or dictate how others feel. This is where the powerful affirmation, "I can't control another person's feelings," comes in. When we accept this truth, we free ourselves from the heavy burden of responsibility for others' emotions. We can focus on our own feelings, needs, and boundaries, without feeling guilty about how it might make others feel.

But what does science say about empathy and boundaries? Studies have shown that our brains are wired to feel empathy for others. However, when we take on others' feelings as our own, it can lead to emotional exhaustion and burnout. This is where setting boundaries becomes essential. Taking a step back and prioritizing our own emotional well-being is not an act of selfishness but an act of self-care.

Just imagine, if we all embraced the fact that we cannot control others' feelings, we would live in a world where people take more responsibility for their own emotions. It would be a world where we respect each other's boundaries and prioritize our mental health.

The good news is that this affirmation can help us navigate difficult relationships and situations. For instance, suppose you have a friend who is frequently angry or upset about things you have no control over. In that case, you can remind yourself that it is not your responsibility to fix their emotional state. Instead, you can offer a listening ear or support, but ultimately it is up to them to manage their emotions.

In conclusion, accepting that we cannot control another person's feelings is a liberating experience. It allows us to let go of the burden of responsibility for others' emotions and frees us to focus on our own emotional well-being. By setting boundaries and prioritizing our own mental health, we can create healthier relationships and a more compassionate world. So, repeat after me: "I can't control another person's feelings." It might just be the most powerful affirmation you say today.

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